it seems like if I am happy 24/7, everything is good. Says I’ve ruined the start of marriage and times with both kids bc of my anxiety. But I am THIS big of an issue for divorce and to be talked down to like this? Bc of what happened 5-6 years ago, during my brothers death and start of marriage, she just resents me. My resume is out everywhere with this shit economy. I know I put her through bullshit bc of my low moods. I know I’m an anxious mess who Wears his heart of his sleeve. I’ve emailed people as of today to get started and likely will be staying a hotel as she doesn’t want to see me. I’m trying to suggest couples counseling and she’s refused mostly. I just can’t agree with that at this point. But she’s getting advice like she doesnt need to be a Martyr for 10 more years and to “run” for the sake of a peaceful home and so the kids can be free. I KNOW I need to chill with work and take care of my wife (not just the kids). I know that shouldn’t matter but I work hard and take pride (even tho that doesn’t matter). ![]() We have been able to stack over 25k in saving this year from my work. Her job gives her great WLB so I slack there big time. I take them to their extra curriculars (sometimes with zero break ALL DAY bc of how busy work is). I work my ASS off and drown myself 5 am- 9 pm. But I am in therapy for myself and with a career counselor. She just text me “I should be at peace when I wake up. My wife is REALLY upset bc she’s sick of taking care of me and for my negative/low attitude except on the wknds. I don’t argue anymore and walk away when things get heated. I tried psychedelics and they worked for a bit for context of me coping with how zonked I’ve been. not only that, people have quit left and right so I’m doing like 3 jobs in 1. However, that comes with long days, quiet/low moods, etc. Then went back to old employer to only then get poached again and now I’m making almost 100k more than before. Then I decided to leave my job bc I got poached to another place for 40k more. Started to workout during Covid and got really good with anxiety. Once I realized doctors just throw meds at you, I swore off meds and got my shit together for her and my son. I was drinking and was a crazy person (flew off the handle bc I didn’t process his death properly). When we first were married, I was on and off meds (my brother had just passed randomly from the flu). ![]() I’ve never even thought of leaving but apparently she has multiple times. I struggle and have struggled with anxiety and depression since day 1. My wife and I have been together for 10 years. ![]() PLEASE READ- I need valuable male and female feedback.
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